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Some difficult people aren’t just hard to deal with—they’re dangerous.

Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems?

When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders—borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic—they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake.

But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to:
 
- Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself.
- Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life.
- Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs.
 
Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself.

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"[This] brilliant book on high-conflict personalities saves us from trusting the wrong people and making the worst relationship mistakes at work, at home, and in our lives. You need this information today!" --Randi Kreger, bestselling author of Stop Walking on Eggshells and The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder

" 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is a must read for the average person dealing with a high-conflict individual at home or at work. It is also essential reading for counselors, lawyers, judges, mediators, physicians, and virtually all other helping professionals." --Nancy Van Dyken, author of Everyday Narcissism

“Essential. Entertaining. Easy. If you’ve ever been the deer in the searchlight, frozen by excessive language or wildly inappropriate actions, this book is your lifesaver. Just one high conflict person in your life can steal your peace of mind for years. With memorable acronyms, readable prose, and clear examples, you can know exactly what to do to get back to safety. I may lend my copy, I may buy 10 copies for people I love, but I will not give my copy away.  I’m keeping it as my get-out-of-trouble free guide.” --Anne Katharine, author of Boundaries in an Overconnected World 

"Must. Read. The beauty of this much-needed book by Bill Eddy lies in its elegant simplicity, its specific and straightforward approach to understanding, identifying, and defusing high-conflict behavior. Bill''s anecdotes, sample statements, and easy-to-remember techniques show readers how to protect themselves, set boundaries, and communicate limits, all with compassion and respect.” --Kimberlee Roth, co-author, Surviving A Borderline Parent: How to Heal Childhood Wounds & Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem

"Bill Eddy, where were you when I needed you? I had never heard of a person with a high-conflict personality, but I spent years as a target of blame. If I had had your illuminating book 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life, I would have understood, and I would have had tools and strategies for protecting myself. This book will help loads of people recognize, avoid, or manage the disturbing experience of being caught in the net of a person with a high-conflict personality. I love the book!" --Jean Illsley Clarke, bestselling author of Self-Esteem: A Family Affair and co-author of Growing Up Again and How Much Is Too Much?

"This book is full of easy-to-take-in information about high conflict personalities, and lots and lots of actionable tips. If you want to know HOW to stand up for yourself, and exactly WHAT to do, this book is for you. With case studies, short scripts to follow, and action steps, you''re all set for managing the high-conflict individual in your life. Just be sure you do take action!"-- Catherine Mattice Zundel, HR Consultant at Civility Partners, author of BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work 

"A deeply wise, much-needed, and extremely readable analysis of the five kinds of high-conflict personalities. If there is an HCP in your life, this invaluable book can help you stay sane in the midst of the pain and chaos they create." --Resmaa Menakem, MSW, author of Rock the Boat and My Grandmother''s Hands

“What a terrific resource and reference book. This self-help manual will assist readers in dealing with destructive personalities in a positive way. This is a must read for everyone, and particularly for those in professions dealing with high-conflict personalities on a regular basis. What I love about it is that it is simple, clear and easy to remember—really a step by step guide in how to deal with destructive personalities in order to avoid causing them more distress and how to escape becoming their victim.” -- Susan P. Finlay, Judge of the Superior Court, ret., San Diego, California

“Like so many of Bill Eddy’s past books, so useful, practical and easy to read, this book will change your life. Having a personal relationship with a high-conflict person, who can be a serial relationship killer, is a scenario destined to ruin your life. This book is a comprehensive ‘how to’ protect yourself by understanding how high conflict persons act and behave and how to disengage in ways design to protect those persons who have been targeted.”-- Sheldon E. Finman, Esq., family law attorney

“Bill Eddy translates for everyone the wisdom he''s shared with lawyers, therapists, judges, human resource directors and other professionals about how to deal with highly challenging personalities we encounter in our daily lives. By providing us with proven techniques for handling people with these psychological disorders, Bill helps save us from months and years of frustration, heartache and agony.” -- Dennis L. Sharp, Esq., LL.M, Mediator, Sharp Resolutions

“We have all encountered high-conflict personalities—in our personal lives, at work, and in our neighborhoods. 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life provides the reader with both a blueprint and the necessary tools to successfully survive these challenging people. We can’t change their personalities, but with this book we can learn how to effectively manage them.” --Denis Doyle, Ph.D., Retired Superintendent of Schools

“Bill Eddy has written an excellent common sense guidebook that provides behavioral maps of what is going on and what can be done about it. The heart of 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is the gift of a better future that it offers all of us who struggle with high-conflict personalities.” --John Dennis

About the Author

BILL EDDY is the co-founder and president of the High Conflict Institute, a company devoted to helping individuals and organizations deal with high-conflict people. Eddy is a Certified Family Law Specialist and Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center in San Diego. He is also a Licensed Clinical Social worker with twelve years'' experience providing therapy to children, adults, couples and families in psychiatric hospitals and outpatient clinics. He has taught negotiation and mediation and currently serves on the faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law.

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Chapter 5

The Love You, Hate You Type

Maybe you know someone who’s extremely charming, friendly, and reasonable—one minute. Then, the next, they’re screaming, and blaming, and attacking you: verbally, fi- nancially, publicly, physically, or all of these and more. The speed with which they turn from seeming to love you to hating you is breathtaking. What did I do? you may ask yourself. How canI get out of here? You may be dealing with a borderline HCP.

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is almost as common as narcissistic personality disorder. A 2008 report of a National Institutes of Health study indicates that nearly 6 percent of the general population has BPD. That’s 5.9 percent with borderline1 compared to 6.2 percent with narcissistic personality disorder— around twenty million people in North America.

From my observations in psychiatric hospitals, outpatient clinics, and legal disputes, I estimate that more than half of those with borderline personality disorder are also HCPs with a Tar- get of Blame. This is because their relationships can become so intensely focused on one person early on, then very intensely focused on that person when the relationship blows up (which they often do after weeks or months, primarily because of this intense focus). This is true whether it’s a romantic relationship, family relationship, work relationship, or otherwise.

However, not all people with borderline personality disorder are HCPs. Some just blame the world for their problems, rather than any one individual. They wonder why “things” don’t seem to go their way and “people” always seem so undepend- able and never seem to stick around. Many attempt suicide or succeed at it, and some cut themselves to feel a sense of control over their emotions. But the borderline HCPs have specific Targets of Blame and may fixate on them for months or years, with emotional harassment, legal claims, or even repeated physical assaults.

The study just described found that 53 percent of those with borderline personality disorder are women, and 47 percent are men. So there is a slight gender difference, but not a significant one. This is a surprise to many mental health professionals fa- miliar with an earlier version of the DSM (DSM-4), who were originally taught that borderline was primarily a female disor- der. But that is no longer accepted as true, based on this much larger NIH study, which is now included in the DSM-5.

Part of the borderline high-conflict personality is preoccu- pied with revenge and vindication. They often end up in court suing their alleged abusers (really, their Targets of Blame) for “abandoning” them one way or another. While some are actual victims of specific abusive behavior, from which they truly need protection, others have taken a victim-in-life position that allows them (in their own minds) to punish their former lovers, employ- ers, and friends for minor or nonexistent behaviors.
According to the DSM-5, someone has borderline personality disorder if they have five or more of nine specific personality traits. The following three key characteristics make them very likely to create high-conflict situations or be HCPs.

1. Fear of abandonment; constantly clinging and seeking reas- surance.
2. Wide mood swings, with rapid shifts between friendliness and rage.
3. Splitting: Seeing people as all good or all bad.

Fear of abandonment is the most basic underlying trait of this disorder. That’s why borderline personalities cling. They hold on to their partners (they often threaten divorce but rarely mean it), their intimate professionals (such as repeatedly calling their doc- tors, therapists, ministers, lawyers), close friends (who they may have just met at work or elsewhere), and family members (they never quite let go of their dependency or their resentments) by constantly requesting contact and reassurance. This is why you may see only the friendly side of them for the first few weeks or months. But they never truly absorb a feeling of being soothed and keep pushing for more, so that they inevitably push away most of the people they were closest to. They may keep their HCP side hidden from you for a time in a close relationship, but usually not longer than nine to twelve months.

If they feel you have actually abandoned them—even if you haven’t or you just forgot something at the store—they go into a rage. This person may spread rumors about you (sometimes known as “distortion campaigns”), they may physically assault you (in the worst case killing you in a rage, but immediately re- gretting it), file lawsuits against you (often against their intimate professionals), call the police against you (such as when a partner wants to get divorced) and accuse you of horrible crimes (child sexual abuse, adult sexual abuse, terrorism, etc.), which are not at all true. (Of course these allegations are true in some cases, so an investigation may occur and it’s best if you cooperate so you don’t make it look like you did something wrong if you didn’t.)

Borderline HCPs will try to persuade others to turn against you, and they will. Other friends and associates may just avoid you because they don’t want to get involved after seeing how in- tense the high-conflict person can become.


Two Flavors of Borderline HCP''s

Randi Kreger, author of The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, emphasizes that some of those with border- line personality disorder are “high-functioning” while others are “low-functioning.” High-functioning borderlines may be suc- cessful and respected in their work or communities, while having great difficulty in their close relationships. Their mood swings may be kept under wraps for years to the average colleague, neighbor, or professional associate. But the person in a close re- lationship with a high-functioning borderline personality, such as a romantic partner, an immediate underling at work, or a business partner may see frequent rages over petty issues or alle- gations of nonexistent offenses.

Since so much of high-functioning borderline HCP behavior goes on behind closed doors, I’ll use fictional examples in this chapter. Consider Meryl Streep’s character in the 2006 movie The Devil Wears Prada. As Miranda Priestly, a high-powered fash- ion magazine editor, she torments her junior personal assistant, Andy (Anne Hathaway). Miranda has constant mood swings, from very charming and mentor-like to extreme anger and crit- icism toward Andy. She gives Andy special assignments and opportunities but then makes frequent threats to fire her if she fails at minor tasks. Miranda would easily fit the rapid mood swings of this personality type.

Andy demonstrates common behavior for a Target of Blame, trying hard to please Miranda and getting caught up in her schemes. Miranda frequently “splits” her staff between good em- ployees and bad employees, handing out favors one minute and backstabbing the next. Ultimately, Andy quits her job and the whole fashion industry. She had planned to stay a year but couldn’t wait to get out. While this was a movie, this type of high-functioning borderline HCP behavior occurs in every oc- cupation to some extent.

On the other hand, low-functioning people with borderline personality disorder are generally more obviously dysfunctional because of their disorder, may have difficulty even keeping a job because of their mood swings and splitting, and may have more self-destructive behaviors.

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R. Charleson
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''Divorcing'' an old friend?
Reviewed in the United States on July 3, 2018
This book has been very useful in helping me deal with irrational verbal attacks by an old associate when I went out on a limb to respond to his request for help. His story became progressively inconsistent and, as I tried gently to help him work through it, I was... See more
This book has been very useful in helping me deal with irrational verbal attacks by an old associate when I went out on a limb to respond to his request for help. His story became progressively inconsistent and, as I tried gently to help him work through it, I was eventually assailed, twice, over the phone. Although this took me by surprise and was painful, this is the second time that the person has ‘come after me’ for no apparent reason.

By chance I saw an article in Psychology Today by the book’s author, Bill Eddy. The article seemed to capture many characteristics of my quasi-friend and his behavior, so I bought the book.

The rationale is simple and elegant. The author is both a mediation attorney, and psychotherapist. About half his mediation cases involve a disputant with one of 5 major types of personality disorders identified by mental health professionals in the DSM-5 [sociopath, psychopath, narcissist etc]. According to the NIH these individuals constitute about 10% of the US population.

Of these types, those who cause people distress through their words or actions, tend to take advantage of people in characteristic ways. The author calls them High-Conflict Personalities (HCPs: though not all people with these disorders cause conflict).

When one finds oneself sucked into a dysfunctional and painful situation with an HCP, certainly one approach is to hire a counselor. In my view, it is best to be equipped with some skills, even if simple ones, to detect, and handle, the situation before seeking professional help. The HCP concept meets that need. It is not intended as a diagnostic system. It is more like a street map telling you which parts of a foreign city to avoid if you value your health.

The book provides early warning clues. Is the person doing something that 90% of the people would not do? [In my case, yes he was]. And, is the person saying something that 90% of the people would not say? [In my case, yes]. Finally, how does one feel after engaging the person? [I felt disconcerted, betrayed, abused, and victimized]. I tend to be too trusting and wanting to help. Thus, I was an easy target.

Of course, given human psychological diversity, the details of how HCPs disrupt relationships will vary. But, in the depth of the book I found many characteristics that fit the person causing me problems. He is charming and fast-talking, with big plans that lacked concrete or logical details (that he wouldn’t discuss). He lies or misrepresents the facts, doesn’t take responsibility for his circumstances, never apologizes, and does not attempt to resolve misunderstandings. I’ve always known that he had a volatile reaction to being questioned, and that he always escalated a disagreement rather than trying to find a common solution. Thus, I have always walked on eggshells around this guy. All these traits are common among certain HCPs.

For me, the official psychological designation didn’t really matter. What mattered was being able to deal with the person. Initially, I reacted with anger and opposition, as anyone would, but that’s not Eddy’s recommendation. Better to set clear boundaries, or use an excuse for a graceful way of backing out. I am currently working on that and, as of now, communication between this person and me has ceased. That saddens me because the guy can be fascinating [as long as I don’t ask questions].

In sum, I found Eddy’s book to be very helpful. Given that HCPs constitute a significant fraction of the people we meet, its recommendations are good to keep in mind before untoward situations develop. What layperson can recall the details of the DSM-5 regarding the diversity of people who effortlessly engage conflict? Eddy’s book is a good first-hand rubric for avoiding trouble. I recommend it.
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Great book, recommended for all in hostile work environments
Reviewed in the United States on July 22, 2018
Terrific book, wish I had read it 10 years ago. I just left a job where a person with both narcissistic personality disorder and border line personality disorder spends her days tearing down excellent people to boost her mediocre self. Six months of that, daily, including... See more
Terrific book, wish I had read it 10 years ago. I just left a job where a person with both narcissistic personality disorder and border line personality disorder spends her days tearing down excellent people to boost her mediocre self. Six months of that, daily, including on weekends as she never stops emailing, and gets offended when her emails are not answered in 5 minutes! I found this book and finally understood what she was doing, and that she could not be helped at work, the best thing was to leave, so I did. Thankfully, the job market is hot and I got another job within days, but how sad that one very ill individual is destroying the workplace for so many people. I have recommended this book to all of those who remain there, and have already received two emails from people thanking me for giving them a game plan on how to deal with this sick individual. Thank you Bill Eddy for your insights, they are valuable to all in the workplace.
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pinkpetunia
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Great practical advice that doesn''t just repeat advice from books about personality disorders
Reviewed in the United States on February 7, 2018
The title is a little HISTRIONIC but this is an incredibly helpful book for identifying and managing five different kinds of high-conflict people. The approaches feel a bit corporate, with trademarked acronyms for each strategy, but I was sold after I found myself reading... See more
The title is a little HISTRIONIC but this is an incredibly helpful book for identifying and managing five different kinds of high-conflict people. The approaches feel a bit corporate, with trademarked acronyms for each strategy, but I was sold after I found myself reading through the chapters, recognizing the people, and thinking, "Dang, I wish I''d said that. Dang, I wish I''d done that." If you''re highly empathetic and/or you have codependent tendencies and find it really hard not to fall right into cheerleader/champion/sympathizer mode with someone new who tugs at your heartstrings, this book offers great stop-drop-and-roll advice that you can follow repeatedly until it becomes instinctual. Loaded with sentences you can actually say in a wide variety of contexts. Love Eddy''s statistical approach to adjusting the reader''s expectations. No, you can''t get along with everybody. You need to expect problems with about one in ten people. Here''s how to manage it.
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Sarah Plainsong
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Insightful, practical, invaluable advice!
Reviewed in the United States on February 24, 2018
Bill Eddy''s latest book is invaluable for anyone working with people - or living with them! Self-awareness is the key to handling high-conflict people, because although THEY probably won''t change, YOU can learn to control how you react to them, to stop them from ruining... See more
Bill Eddy''s latest book is invaluable for anyone working with people - or living with them! Self-awareness is the key to handling high-conflict people, because although THEY probably won''t change, YOU can learn to control how you react to them, to stop them from ruining your life. Bill''s easy to understand methods have worked for me, and I highly recommend this book.It is clearly written without jargon, giving helpful examples of what to say or not to say when confronted by High Conflict People.
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Reviewed in the United States on June 17, 2018
Excellent book that is easy to read. Unfortunately, you will recognize some of these people that can ruin your life, and some may even be in your own family. This book will help you cope and give you strategies to keep them from hurting you. Although we can''t change others,... See more
Excellent book that is easy to read. Unfortunately, you will recognize some of these people that can ruin your life, and some may even be in your own family. This book will help you cope and give you strategies to keep them from hurting you. Although we can''t change others, we can learn how to manage them. Have a serial relationship killer in your life? How about a narcissist or sociopath? Learn whom you can trust. Only one person in ten is one of these people and not all are high conflict people or attack "Targets of Blame." Learn the warning signs so you can protect yourself. Specific examples given and how you can use the CARS Method.
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Crazy Is As Crazy Does! 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life
Reviewed in the United States on September 29, 2018
I love Bill Eddy’s books and really enjoyed reading this one. And I love the 90% rule offered. It is an easy read that explores how those disguised as awesome, charming, smart, popular, productive, successful, and talented may be extremely toxic and dangerous.... See more
I love Bill Eddy’s books and really enjoyed reading this one. And I love the 90% rule offered.

It is an easy read that explores how those disguised as awesome, charming, smart, popular, productive, successful, and talented may be extremely toxic and dangerous. It addresses how they miss detection, how they connect with certain-others, and how they positively present themselves. It describes how they later engage in efforts to destroy their targets of blame, and offers how to identify toxic personalities and how to protect yourself from them.

I have found that most don’t seek out truths like these until they’ve experienced the toxic’s destruction, and only then to self-improve. Most want to understand their role in it, how it happened, how they misread the toxic’s motive and agendas, and learn how-to prevent it from happening again while protecting themselves and others.

I have learned so very much reading Bill Eddy’s books and I frequently visit his website ‘ highconflictpersonalities.com ‘ and subscribe to his on-line articles. I absolutely recommend this and his other books, and his website articles, classes, and tools, etc. to all who enjoy public service, or who mediate, represent, or judge, or who are in a position of authority (supervisors, leaders, clergy, parents, etc.), and to those who simply enjoy helping others.

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Mandatory read for all generations!
Reviewed in the United States on March 10, 2018
A book of value, have your children, friends and co-workers read this book!.......not knowing the information presented in this book will raise the chances of tremendous heart break and financial destruction if any loved one''s life has been affected by the types of people... See more
A book of value, have your children, friends and co-workers read this book!.......not knowing the information presented in this book will raise the chances of tremendous heart break and financial destruction if any loved one''s life has been affected by the types of people and situations outline. I will be buying another copy for my 20 year old son in hopes to help enlighten him as he takes off on his own life path.
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Wish I had this book years ago, it would have made my life measurably easier.
Reviewed in the United States on June 11, 2019
The reason to buy this book is simple: Most of the people you encounter want to be friendly, coexist, or at least not damage you. Unfortunately, the few who are HCP will have an out-sized effect on your life, relationships, make you doubt yourself, and will not let you... See more
The reason to buy this book is simple: Most of the people you encounter want to be friendly, coexist, or at least not damage you. Unfortunately, the few who are HCP will have an out-sized effect on your life, relationships, make you doubt yourself, and will not let you walk away from them. This book is more general than some of his others, covering the whole range of High Conflict Personalities. He is very specific about how to recognize them and avoid them if you can. He explains that these people are generally frightened and lash out. At the same time, he tells the reader what to do to back carefully to the door. At least as important, he explains how they can present themselves to others as the victim who needs your help and draw you into unknowingly helping them attack someone else.
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GingerWizard
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Excellent Manual for Life
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on January 4, 2019
I bought this book in an effort understand some things that had happened to me in the past that I did not appear to move past. I was full of self doubt and convinced that I had misinterpreted what had happened or was being dramatic. I was also in a cycle of self blame. I...See more
I bought this book in an effort understand some things that had happened to me in the past that I did not appear to move past. I was full of self doubt and convinced that I had misinterpreted what had happened or was being dramatic. I was also in a cycle of self blame. I think this book is helpful to the victims of those with personality disorders in that it helps to explain and reassure that you were dealing with something very real instead of a product of your imagination.
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Jools
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Interesting reading
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on July 8, 2020
Oh very interesting. After years of wondering what was going on with someone I know. If you to are wondering and wondering how you are going to deal with this have a read and be enlighten. Recommend reading for anyone who finds themselves trying to work out what makes...See more
Oh very interesting. After years of wondering what was going on with someone I know. If you to are wondering and wondering how you are going to deal with this have a read and be enlighten. Recommend reading for anyone who finds themselves trying to work out what makes someone act the way they do.
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Enlightening
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Very well worth the read!
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There are far better books out there on the subject.
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on August 19, 2019
Books written by George Simon, e.g In Sheeps Clothing, are much more insightful and helpful than this one.
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Excellent MUST-READ
Reviewed in India on September 12, 2018
This is a rare, cutting-edge people-psychology book that is totally up to date. The knowledge of why difficult and hostile people do what they do, and the ability to understand their thinking and predict their behaviour is a HUGE DESTRESSOR in dealing with them. It takes...See more
This is a rare, cutting-edge people-psychology book that is totally up to date. The knowledge of why difficult and hostile people do what they do, and the ability to understand their thinking and predict their behaviour is a HUGE DESTRESSOR in dealing with them. It takes away all the frustration and gives a very practical direction that works! It brings hope. People looking for prospective spouses, will find this book extremely useful, as it shows how to identify difficult people, how to defuse them, steer clear of them and avoid backlashes. This book is wonderfully written in simple lucid style. This is probably because it is the first of its kind. The people that are showcased are extreme versions of the five types, but the exposure to the type of things they say and do is valuable for all of us. There are incredibly practical tips for handling these types which are based on rock-solid observations and victims'' experiences, and can be relied upon for their authenticity.
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